I wanted to write about pathology because I believe if you understand your family pathology than you have a better chance to live a successful, happy life. Regardless, of what you may or may not have received as a child. As adults, we are all always on stage in front of children.
Parents may get angry or frustrated with their children when they do not do what you want them to do. Children, only know right from wrong in their informative years, with the tools that parents or role models have given them. In theory, that sounds nice. Children learn by example, and if the correct standard is not set “then, you reap what you sow”? I believe that parents get angry with their children, sometimes for their decisions. Is it really about the choices that a child makes that causes a parent to get frustrated with their child?
Alternatively, is the decision that the child makes, that creates a parent to look at themselves, that gets them frustrated? I am not a parent; however, I have to believe that parents at one point or another have realized that their children are a direct byproduct of what they created. I also think that most parents want more for their children than what they were given.
It is so easy for a mother and father to look at their child and say, I wish you could have done this; differently, I wish you would have ended up this way, I hope that you could have been better than me. However, flip the coin, and it is just as easy for a mother and father to look at their child and say I am proud of you. Guilt and shame will never change the outcome of ANY human being.
With every generation that passes, we can only hope they will proceed us. I can’t even begin to tell you the stories of how both of my earthly parents were raised and how both of them, wish more for me than their parents were able to hope for them. I do not have biological children, so I do not know what goes through the minds of parents, but I do know that I that many sets of parents love me. I am a role model to my sister’s children. Some children don’t ever get to meet their earthly parents, and I am grateful that today I have both of them as living examples of faith in my life.